Blooming Gift Guide for Mamas & Mamas-to-Be

Ah, the art of gift giving. So often, this crafty endeavor is one of those things that either comes naturally to you or is a small form of torture. Which is it? Are you the person who has made multiple Pinterest-worthy DIY creations for your loved ones over the years, or do you rest more comfortably in the category of people who bemoan any special occasion that comes up too quickly on your calendar?

No matter where you fall on the above spectrum, there is an inherent pressure to pick the perfect item for that special someone. Even the best of us gifters feel the strain at times, which makes a trusty gift guide all the more appreciated when needed.

Babies in Bloom is in the business of supporting families from pregnancy to birth and beyond, and we’re pretty sure that from the time of conception to forever, you and your family will have plenty of gifts to give. Don’t you worry – support is here! Our one-of-a-kind curated Blooming Gift Guides are tailored to meet the specific gift-giving needs of our community.

Read on for our first guide dedicated to Mamas & Mamas-to-Be. Whether you’re invited to a baby shower for a dear friend or want to send a special present to a woman in your life about to give birth, this gift guide will help remind this new mom that caring for, honoring, and celebrating herself is just as important – if not more so – than the adorable baby that is about to arrive.

You’re sure to score some bonus points for thinking outside the box with these thoughtful gifts! Not sure where to grab these awesome items? Never fear, most are available at our Babies in Bloom boutique (in-store or online).

Babies-in-Bloom Presents:

Blooming Gift Guide for Mamas & Mamas-to-Be

 

  • A Rest & Relaxation

 

Easy Naps and Calm Nights Tea – $17.95

Every family needs this tea in the pantry! A soothing and relaxing blend that encourages calmness and entices sleep. Perfect to sip after a bath on one of those restless preggie nights. It also makes our favorite drink for overstimulated toddlers, mix one cup of hot tea and a teaspoon full of raw local honey to a cup of cold organic whole milk for a lukewarm calming treat.

A Little Something for Mama to Be – $24.95

Pregnancy brings it all on, so here’s special gift that says “I get it. This will help.” 6 piece set includes travel sized deodorant, body wash, belly butter and oil, and lip balm in a sweet reusable non-toxic, PVC-free plastic zipper pouch.

Fox Box Pre-Curated Gift Box – $32.00 and up

Fox Box is a LA based company started by three women wanting to create beautiful gift boxes as a way to create stronger relationships. With an assortment of gift boxes available, Fox Box is sure to have the perfect curated gift for the one lucky mom you’re shopping for. Take the Beauty Box that retails for $100 and includes a Bkr water bottle, Tony Moly sheet masks, a gorgeous BOXFOX rose quartz facial roller, a woven french market tote and rose facial mist.

  • Preferred Reading

Nurture – A Modern Guide to Pregnancy, Birth, Early Motherhood — and Trusting Yourself and Your Body – $18.95

Nurture is the only all-in-one pregnancy and birthing book for modern mothers-to-be and their partners who want a more integrative approach. Author Erica Chidi Cohen has assisted countless births and helped hundreds of families ease into their new roles through her work as a doula. This beautiful, comprehensive and judgement-free pregnancy companion covers everything from the beginning months of pregnancy to the baby’s first weeks. Including supportive self-care and mindfulness exercises, trimester-specific holistic remedies, nourishing foods and recipes for every month of pregnancy along with more than 40 charming and helpful illustrations, and expert tips for every birth environment, itƒ??s got everything modern mother would want to know: fetal development, making choices for a hospital, home or birth center birth, the basics of breastfeeding, tips on what to expect postpartum and more.

The First Forty Days: The Essential Art of Nourishing the New Mother by Heng Ou, Amely Greeven, Marisa Belger – $22.46
The first 40 days after the birth of a child offer an essential and fleeting period of rest and recovery for the new mother. Based on author Heng Ou’s own postpartum experience with zuo yuezi, a set period of “confinement,” in which a woman remains at home focusing on healing and bonding with her baby, The First Forty Days revives the lost art of caring for the mother after birth. The book includes 60 simple recipes for healing soups; replenishing meals and snacks; and calming and lactation-boosting teas, all formulated to support the unique needs of the new mother. In addition to the recipes, this warm and encouraging guide offers advice on arranging a system of help during the post­partum period, navigating relationship challenges, and honoring the significance of pregnancy and birth.

  • Mom Armor

Solly Wrap – $64.95

Lightweight, easy to put on, Solly Baby wraps give you and your little one unparalleled closeness and comfort, less crying (it’s proven!), and reduced rates of postpartum depression.                                        

Pregnant Belly Salve – $17.95

This salve effectively prevents stretch marks and relieves the itch of stretching skin. Wonderful for regular moisturizing in the mornings, evenings or anytime!

Organic Herbal Sitz Bath – $5.99

Take care down there with natural herbal compresses filled with organic herbs traditionally used to soothe and comfort down there during pregnancy or after childbirth. Packed in easy-to-use, individual herbal sachets, each one is perfect for one use.

Original Belly Bandit – $49.95

The Original Belly Bandit Belly Wrap features an uncovered, latex-free design with medical grade elastic to help slim and support your belly, waist and hips post-pregnancy.

  • Trinkets & Treasures

Vintage Pearl Custom Products – $35 and up

Our custom jewelry is hand-stamped with your names, dates or meaningful

phrases, making them a special keepsake. Our desire is to design and create beautiful handmade pieces and personalized jewelry that will connect with your heart and soul. You will love to give our pieces as gifts, we have the perfect piece for everyone.

Ju-Ju-Be BFF – SALE $108.00

This bag will be your BFF. It has tons of pockets and organization…so much you won’t know what to do with it all. The BFF comes with detachable shoulder straps and messenger straps.

Rotunda Bag – $84.95

Our sophisticated Rotunda diaper bag brings you an elegant combination of style and thoughtful function while you’re out and about with your little one. It’s a classic piece you can flaunt even after you’re done changing diapers.

 

  • Breastfeeding Gifts

 

Nursing Pillow – $43.95

The My Brest Friend Original Nursing Pillow was developed in a laboratory of new moms, babies, and breastfeeding experts who set out to create a nursing pillow whose sole purpose was to answer all the needs of nursing moms and babies. 50 prototypes and a global patent later, the nursing pillow is loaded with features moms love.

Simple Wishes Hands Free Pumping Bra – $38.95

The Signature Hands Free Pumping Bra gives moms the valuable gift of time by freeing up their hands for other tasks or allowing them to simply relax while using their breast pump. The patented design is adjustable in size, using high quality Velcro, to sustain a perfect fit over time as a nursing mother’s size changes. Straps and 1” Center Panel included to help achieve the perfect fit!

Adjustable Nursing Stool – $33.95

My Brest Friend’s nursing stool can help a breastfeeding mother minimize lower back, shoulder, neck, and wrist pain by helping her to maintain a supportive, comfortable position while nursing.

5 Things The Baby Blogs Do Not Tell You About Life With A Newborn

Real Talk: A lot’s about to change and fast.  

You’re pregnant with your first child and counting down the days before their arrival. You can’t help but click on any and all articles about those early days of parenthood. You want to be prepared. You want to minimize surprises. No one wants to be blindsided, especially with a baby. Those articles you’re reading might be helpful but one glaring truth remains: there were some big omissions I noticed too late (i.e. after I had my baby). Have no fear. Compiled below are the top five things I would have liked to know and you’ll be glad you heard from me before your newborn arrives.

 

1) Breast milk will get everywhere

 

If you’re using formula, you can substitute the headline, but I’m certain the same truth holds up. Between my breasts having some quite literal growing pains in the early weeks and months following childbirth, and the need for pumping between feeds, breast milk had taken over my life. It will take over yours too. Plan for it, don’t be surprised by it, embrace it.

Also, embrace the white splotches and blotches all over the place. Seriously, just the other day, I stared at my tile wondering what could possibly be the cause of the faint but definitely creamy dried splatter trailing down the hall. Didn’t take long to remember a week or so before, I had to run upstairs mid-pump session to get my baby because he woke up from his ten minute nap. Where else have I found remnants of my liquid gold? The inside of my overnight duffle bag (no idea how it got there). In the fridge. Around the fridge. All over my clothes. The bathroom mirror. Kitchen countertop. A cutting board. Our mattress and bed frame. The nightstand. My cell phone. The steering wheel. You get the idea right?

And, if you’re like me, and cleaning takes a backseat during this time of constant learning, little sleep, and bonding, you’ll get used to these spots, splats, and splotches becoming permanent fixtures in your home. At least for an unforeseeable length of time.

2) TV will become your (new) best friend

Maybe you already know each other. You spend time together at the end of the night after a long day’s work, or you enjoy binge watching five seasons of your favorite show in one weekend together. Your television or cell phone, iPad, computer screen is not necessarily something new to you.

What will be new is your dependence on it and the frequency of your get-togethers after your baby arrives.

I don’t know why this was such a shock to me, but I distinctly remember, within the first week or two of motherhood getting really upset. NO ONE TOLD ME that I wouldn’t have the use of my free hands anymore. Before I had my baby, I remember thinking I would spend my maternity leave reading lots of books, sleeping when the baby slept, and knitting, or writing, or drawing, or painting. I would have so much free time, I told myself.

Expectation soon met reality. Holding my cell phone with one hand was sometimes virtually impossible with a newborn. My story of postpartum mommydom included breastfeeding challenges to include nipple shields, SNS tubes, pumping between feeds, and all the other stuff you have to do with a baby too. So, most of my days involved holding a baby with one hand and eating with the other, or holding a syringe in my mouth, squeezing my boob with one hand and cradling my newborn as he attempted to latch with the other. My life revolved around the two hour required feedings, feedings that averaged a half hour a piece, and his naps meant it was time for me to pump. Whatever version of motherhood you may be blessed with, you will probably sit for an inordinate amount of time doing some combo of any of the above. You will need to turn to something for company, and that something will be your TV because your baby is really a pretty boring, albeit very cute and squishy, blob right now.

Stock up on some shows and movies you’re excited to watch because that will be your life. 24 hours of the day. Okay, maybe minus the two hours you get to sleep. I’m serious. During this time, I had Netflix and Hulu and ABC apps downloaded to my phone even, because night feedings and night pumping meant that I had to stay awake and focused on very little sleep in the dark next to my peacefully sleeping husband. You need some real exciting entertainment for that to even be remotely possible.

3) You should learn how to go to the restroom one-handed

Picture this: you’re in the middle of a grocery run with your baby in tow when your bladder starts sending you distress signals. You head over to the restroom and are reminded that your cart and all the unpurchased items are not allowed inside. You grab your baby, head to the nearest stall, lock the door, and what happens next is a not-so-fun game of Choose Your Own Adventure.

Don’t believe me? Try unbuttoning your bottoms, shimmying them down, doing your business, hoisting them back up, and re-buttoning gracefully one-handed all while holding your baby with the other arm. Not so easy, huh?

Until more businesses take this issue seriously and install these in their restroom stalls, you’re going to find yourself in this predicament more often than you realize. Changing tables aren’t safe enough to step that far away from your baby, and even though there are times that your stroller comes in clutch with the baby-holding assist, you can’t always rely on your handy dandy baby carrier on wheels. One day you will need to purchase more items than a stroller can carry, or you’ll just be running in for a quick trip and don’t want to lug around that heavy stroller, or you forgot it, or your child is going through an anti-stroller phase. You might even be in for a total treat and have a child who has decided to be stuck to you 24/7 even at home and won’t let you put them down even for a potty break. Rest assured, it will happen to you. Your time will come, it will come many times, and when it does, you’ll think back to this very moment and at least acknowledge that someone out there warned you.

Public Service Announcement: One possible solution is to wear your baby whenever possible in a baby carrier, ring sling or wrap. While the challenges outlined above won’t be completely absolved, you are granted the freedom of two working hands which makes a huge difference!

4) Your living room is really boring

Don’t take this statement personal, so is mine. So is anyone’s once you spend multiple days in a row, hours on end in that same small space. If you have your baby in the middle of the summertime heatwave, or live somewhere that has Snow Days and give birth in the winter, then you could literally be stuck inside your home and have no choice. Even in your unique situation, there is a good chance you have more than one room in the house. Staring at the same walls, the same furniture, the same decor, looking out the same windows, will start to get to you.

For your sake, and for your baby’s sake, rotate rooms throughout the day. Spend your first couple hours in the bedroom, move to the living room, spend some time in your kitchen, the patio, your guest room, the office, the nursery. Use the space you have and hang in each corner. Changing the scenery will work wonders for your mental state.

When you feel up to it, get outside, explore your neighborhood, drive around, and breathe in some fresh air at least once or twice in the day. You have to be intentional about it. If you’re not, you may find yourself realizing it’s been a couple days since you’ve ventured outdoors (I see you; checking the mail doesn’t count).

5) Making your bed every morning might be all you accomplish in a day

It goes without saying that caring for a human being is an accomplishment in and of itself, but in case you’re striving to get more done every 24 hour cycle, it’s time to face a hard truth. Here it goes: You can’t do it all, so don’t even try. I don’t care who you are or how wonderful you are because I thought I was a pretty close at making doing it all look easy. I prided myself on cooking all meals at home, working long hours, keeping my house clean, and still had a social life. Any semblance of that changed real quick after giving birth. Don’t get me wrong, things are still pretty tidy, and I found a way to still cook here and there after a few weeks to recover, but gone is the unnecessary burden of a do it all lifestyle.

Almost a year in and I’m finally coming to a sense of acceptance over what I can do and can’t. I can be present for my baby but I can’t if I insist on having laundry, dishes, and everything clean each day. So, I choose baby more times than not. I’ve learned to have some non-negotables that help me feel accomplished no matter what I get done or don’t get done in the day: make the bed and brush my teeth. I do this right after I put down my son for his nap (because I can’t control how long he will sleep, but I can count on at least 20 minutes even on a bad day). Sometimes I even shower, get work done, make a phone call too. But I don’t count on those things and that helps set my mind at ease and shape my perspective.

There are advocates who swear making the bed each day is the key to success. But, honestly, if it isn’t important to you, choose two things that are and stick with them, no matter what, each day.

 

Viral Photo: Paper Plate

Birth has gone viral! In the past year, videos and photos about the realities of birth and life postpartum have dominated social media and headlines. Earlier this year, we shared with you the viral video on contractions! Today, we’re passing along another viral moment – this time it’s a photograph of a paper plate used to illustrate the physical “wound” inside a woman’s uterus following the delivery of the placenta.

By now you may have already seen it, but if you haven’t here’s the low down. Back in March, a mom and birth advocate, Laura Fry, posted a photo of a paper plate with a measuring tape across it on her Facebook page Labor of Love. The measuring tape in the picture shows that the plate is approximately 8.5 inches across, which happens to be also be the average diameter of a placenta. Fry’s caption explains the significance in full:

As with most things related to pregnancy, childbirth, and motherhood, there are many different opinions out there regarding what is best for women, and the fact that all it took was one photograph of a paper plate to garner so much attention is a great thing.

Various outlets have used this photograph to advocate for longer maternity leave. On a more simple scale, however, it really just serves as a reminder to take it easy, while opening up the debate about what “take it easy” really means.

Following the initial post, it appears that Fry had to add multiple edits and addendums to clarify her comments, but the intent and overall purpose of the post shouldn’t get lost in the muddle: moms need time to recover after childbirth.

It seems so commonplace to say. Of course, women need to recover. Of course, there are physical changes to the body after childbirth.

But maybe Fry was tapping into something that we also know: moms can so easily fall into the habit of focusing on everyone else before themselves. Being a new mom is no different. Plus, if you factor in all the outside pressures and the perfection social media users often portray, it can be very difficult to hold back, take it easy, and lie low, when you want to show the world how great you feel.

There is no right or wrong here. All women are different. All bodies heal differently. This is true. But what is also true is that regardless of how you think you feel in the moment, your body is still healing. Sometimes, you just don’t realize it until you’ve maxed out and by then, you might be looking at a more arduous recovery from complications versus the natural progression of things.

If it feels good to go to the store a week after childbirth, by all means, do it. If going on a walk will help you feel more like yourself, no one is stopping you.

But also keep in mind that women don’t always have someone reminding them to take it easy either. Women don’t always have someone telling them its okay to stay in bed or stay at home for the first few weeks without judgment. When baby arrives, women may no longer be the focus of the attention, care and concern of others.

For these women, and for any woman, it is important to keep this in mind too. Advocate for yourself. Really consider what it is that is driving you to do more in those early weeks. Is it for you? Then by all means go at your own pace. If it is for others or outside pressure, give yourself some grace. Remember what you’ve put your body and mind through. Remember the paper plate.

We hear so often about savoring the precious time you have in the early days with your baby, but the message should also be: protect yourself, armor up, heal, strengthen, and sustain.

We’ve all heard about how important it is for couples to focus on the marriage instead of the wedding. The same should go for motherhood. We focus so much on the birth that we forget that after birth, and even after the early postpartum period, comes motherhood, which is a lifelong commitment and lifestyle change.

The early months and years of parenting are a rollercoaster that involve reduced sleep, a surge in increased responsibility, added worry and anxiety, and a steep learning curve. The reason we and women like Laura Fry encourage and advocate for rest and healing is not to add limitations or judgment on women after childbirth. Quite the opposite, its to ensure that women are able to continue living the lives they lived before and for years to come as they transition into motherhood. While you’re in the throws of those early days and weeks, it can be difficult to allow that time for grace and rest, but remind yourself that it’s a marathon, not a sprint. Remember the paper plate.

Do the Techno Baby Balance

Finding a balance with technology in this new age of baby can be challenging. We’re here to help.

For generations, the fundamentals of parenting probably haven’t changed too much. In fact, in recent years, there seems to be momentum toward returning to those simpler times we’ve heard about from our grandparents. At the same time, we love all the options we have now. These options may make things more difficult and warrant more decision-making, but at least we get to choose what we want!

It’s a balancing act, right? The need for simplicity, while wanting to still enjoy life’s perks. In most recent years, a lot of these tempting “perks” have to do with technology. We love our screens: cell phones, television, and computers.

Now that you’re a parent, your relationship with technology might feel a little more complicated. You keep hearing about the need to be a present parent, reduce screen time, and raise your little ones the Montessori way. Before you give in and break up with all your tech gadgets in the name of good parenting, consider making some of the minor adjustments below to help bring more balance to your techno/baby life.

Social Media

To post or not to post? That is the question. It’s possible that, prior to becoming a parent, you had an account on one or more social media platform.

Maybe the old you posted daily photos and tweeted without pause — the open book type of person. Sharing your social media accounts with someone was as normal as exchanging business cards.

It’s also possible that you could have been the relationships person, who was intentional about the people you allowed to see your feed and took advantage of privacy settings to ensure your life was only public to your friends and family. You still shared your daily adventures and highlighted life’s milestones, just not to the whole world.

Could it be that you are neither of these? That, while you do have a social media account or two, you’re likely to retweet an interesting article or post a picture of your meal at a hip restaurant over sharing intimate details of your life on the web.

Regardless of which “type” you used to fit into, once you become a parent, you will inevitably feel some sort of conflict, externally or internally, regarding what you share with others about your newest family member. You may be feeling pressure from family and friends who don’t live nearby. They want to see your precious littles, who seem to grow and change each minute. Updates are much needed and appreciated, and it can get overwhelming remembering to keep so many people in the loop individually.

There’s also the likelihood that you are struggling to contain your excitement too. MY BABY IS SOO CUTE. I HAVE TO SHARE IT WITH THE WORLD! Am I right? It is so hard to keep all these proud parent moments to yourself, especially when there’s a sure-fire way you can share that gets all sorts of love and comments and attention.

But, there’s something that’s nagging a few of you. We are in uncharted territory. We cannot seek advice from our parents, who never had to worry about what it might be like to have a digital catalogue of images throughout your life out there for the public to see. We don’t know the long-term ramifications of what that may do to our children. We don’t even know if we’re making a big deal out of nothing. This could very well be the new normal.

Maybe, you’re just not ready to go there yet. Maybe you don’t want to become “that mom” and post all the hundreds of photos you want to because it’s too hard to choose. Maybe the recent Facebook drama about our private information being compromised makes you even more wary. Maybe you wish there was another option.

There is. Or, rather, there are. If you’re uneasy about the limitations of social media but still want to publically share your new family’s precious moments with your loved ones near and far, the tech world has thought of you. That’s right. There are multiple apps and websites out there with just what you’re looking for.

Search “baby photo sharing” on your App Store and you’ll see that there are many to choose from: Notabli, 23snaps, Family Album Mitene and Tinybeans, just to name a few. These apps are free and allow you to upload all the photographs and videos you could possibly want. They may have some different features that set them apart, but ultimately, they all work the same way. You invite people to have access to your “album” and they are able to download, like, and comment on them, just like on social media. Another great feature of these apps is that they offer album printing, so you can regularly make photo books using your favorite photographs with ease. If you’re worried about your family members that do not use apps, you are in luck. All of the apps mentioned above have websites that people can use to access your albums the same way they would on a phone app.

Photography

Cell phones make it so easy to snap away throughout the day. We usually have our phones on us at all times, They are lightweight, they don’t require an extra cord to share the photos with others, and the quality of the shots improves with each new phone upgrade. Also, filters!

Still, once you get around to printing your first set of cell phone photographs, you’ll find that you’ve been disappointingly made aware of a big drawback to using this device for preserving your memories. The photo quality, even on the latest and greatest of phones, doesn’t translate to the standard 4×6 print, let alone enlargements.

There’s a reason for this: digital screens such as phones, cameras and computer screens can display up to 17 million colors! A printer can only produce between 2,000 and 4,000. This explains why you can visibly see a difference between what a picture looks like on your phone and a printed copy.

Before you go and shed some tears scrolling through your thousands of milestones and toothless grins you captured with new parent naïveté, consider a proactive approach moving forward. By all means continue using your cell phone for easy, on-the-go, and in the moment photos that can’t afford to wait. But in addition to that, plan one day each week to spend part of the day snapping photos of your little one(s) with your digital camera. Don’t have one? There is a wide array of cameras available now for any budget, but still are higher quality than your phone camera. Take some advice from Pink and don’t forget to have people take pictures sometime so you can be in the photos as well! Otherwise, you’ll have to explain to your confused children years from now why you aren’t in any of their baby photos with them, but you swear you were there!

Even though we’ve offered a solution for you moving forward, that still doesn’t solve the problem of all the photos you have that have been deemed “not worthy.” Never fear, there are things you can do to help convert the color discrepancies that exist between cell photos and printers.  

Photo printing companies like Artifact Uprising have come up with ways to help convert your photographs from screen to print in a way that is the most simplified and high quality possible. The solution lies in making sure your images are in the sRGB color profile. Here’s a how-to guide for converting your images before sending them to print: Changing the Color Profile.

Another option is avoiding glossy prints! Matte prints do not call attention to the color discrepancies as loudly as gloss can. Matte prints also give your photographs a more authentic, old-timey feel that can help your memories feel timeless when looking through them for years to come.

Screen Time

A few years back, you probably heard that the American Academy of Pediatrics recommended NO screens for children under two. This suggestion was probably easier said than done when you consider that meant that playing with Snapchat filters with your baby and streaming Netflix to stay sane when alone with one or more children under two all day both fell into that restricted category.

It’s quite possible that we’re being too extreme about screen time after all. The AAP stepped back from that suggested ban back in 2016, but in some ways, the “damage” was already done. We’ve heard the founders and CEOs of some of tech’s biggest entities such as Apple and Facebook admit that they restrict their own children from internet and phone usage. We surely know the parent or two who laments ever letting their child use their cell phone to play a game. Hell, maybe we are that parent. Maybe you side-eyed the family that has their children obediently watching a movie on an iPad while at a restaurant – then, maybe you wondered if that too would be you one day. The #parentguilt is real and maybe it’s all because of this now outdated No Screen Under Two guideline.

Whatever the cause, we’re navigating uncharted territory when it comes to the effects screens and technology in general have on child behavior and development. We are so used to seeking answers that maybe we’ve forgotten that, like almost every part of parenting, there is no one, true “right” way. Instead, maybe the best way to approach the decisions you will inevitably have to make regarding cell phones, Internet, television, video games, movies and more is by using the common sense and what-works-for-our-family approaches. In essence, do what makes the most sense and feels most comfortable for your family.

The running thread throughout this article is balance and screen time should be no different. Being completely prohibitory could backfire and be difficult to live up to. More and more these days, we need to check our phones regularly for work. It allows us the flexibility to sit with our kids while they play in the living room while responding to work emails. This is not necessarily a bad thing. When faced with the option to stay late in the office or come home and do that, most parents would emphatically choose to utilize their hand-held device. At the same time, an awareness of the impressions we are giving our children is important too. This is why many child experts are recommending mindful parenting practices like #DeviceFreeDinner to set a standard for quality time as a family.

Ultimately, trust your gut and be willing to adjust as technology, your parenting style and your children evolve. That said, if you’re the person who still likes to read up on all the opinions and advice there is out there, consider sites like CommonSenseMedia.org as more of a reference guide than How-To Manual.